All the Single Ladies! Holla for the Upside;)
A little visual...
I am lying in bed with my hair in a messy bun piled on top of my head, wearing a Paramour tee, and glasses. No make up. That about covers it. I've got to tell you it's not awful. I am listening to some awesome music and contemplating this past year, and I have come to a really fabulous conclusion. Life is really good right now. In fact life is fantastic. I've written many times about the reasons I have chosen to remain single. It is most definitely by choice.
I think women at any age benefit by having time to ourselves every so often. There is nothing wrong with taking a step back and giving yourself a breather. Life in general is hard, but add to that the stress of finding "the one," your biological clock, climbing the corporate ladder, and the pressure we women put on ourselves and each other, it's no wonder we rush around trying to please everyone and we lose ourselves in the process.
I have chosen this year to focus on me. Of course I put God first and my family second. But that doesn't mean that I have to lose myself in the process. I spend time doing what makes me happy; if not down right content.
Like I said, being single is my choice. Sure I date, but I am up front from the very beginning. I'm not looking for a relationship. For some reason most men don't grasp this concept. Yet, I'm truly not playing hard to get. I realize that this may be hard for the opposite sex to comprehend, but there you go.
Isn't being choosy, waiting until your ready, and having very high standards a prerequisite before choosing a life partner? I've had a list of what I am looking for in a husband. I've had it since I was 16 . I've added to it over the years after many failed relationships. And I'll be honest, this guy probably does exist. And if he does I will know God, himself hand picked him for me. But I am not in any hurry to find him. If I don't find him I may be single until my dying day. Oh but what a fulfilled and blessed life it will be.
Ladies, don't settle. Make your own list. Make it as detailed as possible, down to the physical characteristics. Then keep it in your bible and pray about it daily. And when you're ready Mr. Right will land in your lap. I sincerely believe God will honor you for your efforts.
Gentlemen, the same advice applies. Don't settle. Make your list. Pray over it. God will honor you. I think we all overcomplicate our dating lives. Put it in God's hands. I can certainly speak from experience on what happens when we go it alone. If we give it to Him he will never ever disappoint us.
Until then, hog the bed, enjoy your guilty pleasures, eat ice cream in bed, binge watch Downton Abby, The bachelorette, or endless hours of Gilmore Girls.
And let's face it. There's always an upside to Gilmore Girls. ;)